When I need to escape from something negative, I always find a book and read. It helps me to focus on something else, as well as open my mind to new ideas,perspectives and imaginations. It helps me to retain my positive energy and stay healthy,mentally.

Hurt people,hurt others.There are so many negative people out there. I believe it is because there are many people hurting due to various professional, financial or relationship issues. How do you guard your positive energy while surrounded by negativity at the work place, on the road to and from work, or on public areas etc? 

And with social media bringing all of us closer than before, it is easy to be impacted by negativity,even by people or situations that do not even concern you! For example, imagine opening your whats-app, just to find a video clip posted on one of your groups, a video of a child being tortured or a woman being beaten or an accident...automatically,your energy changes. Even though all of what you saw,did not occur physically, to you.

Here is how I guard my positive energy;

Morning Meditation: Every morning I spend 10-15 minutes on meditation, preparing my mind for the day ahead. I do this through guided positive meditation videos that you can find on YouTube, which helps me to stay positive and clam,throughout the day.

Be Aware of Your Thoughts: Most often we run personal conversations in our minds. We talk to ourselves on what is troubling or on events that occurred etc. But we usually forget that,these thoughts and personal conversations can also shift us to negativity. They can lead us to self doubt, self hate and more. To control this, try to be aware of your thoughts, and when you find yourself going to negativity,bring your thoughts back to positive conversations. It is not easy,especially when we are hurt or troubled...but with constant practice, it can be done

Control your Social Media content; I have blocked the automatic download feature for Whats-app,which means I will not see any picture,video or voice note unless I click it to open. This helps me to avoid seeing things that I do not know,and thus avoid negative surprises. Also I have un-followed all Instagram and Twitter accounts which post content that I find disturbing. In short, I am more in control of what I see and interact with on social media, than i used to be.

Count you Blessings; Throughout the day, I remind myself of the things I am grateful for, and I say my THANK YOUs to God. This helps me to see things on a different light, even when they are negative. It's like my mind is making a shift, looking at the negative things and find some lessons that I can be grateful for. It also helps me to control my REACTION to things or situations that I find negative.

All in all, there are many ways you can develop the habit of staying positive and guard that energy. You know yourself better,listen to your inner intuition and go with it. WHY? Because guarding your positive energy is keeping guard on your mental health, something that is very valuable.

Stay positive,Stay Blessed

Missie Popular

Let me start by a confession. I, Mariam a.k.a Missie Popular, has never had a DIARY. ๐Ÿ˜Œ

Mind you, I did my schooling through boarding schools (including an all girls school), and diaries were every where! Most evening were used for feeding in the daily information and events, on those diaries. Some girls had the pink ones with feathered pink pens, with the inside pages being adorned with hearty stickers and smiley emojis...A scene that just irritated me. 

Writing stories/novels was my thing! Oooh I could write such imaginative stories! Anyhow,that is a story for another day. Today,let's talk about the power of keeping a journal.

See,I came to realize that, writing real stuff down is very therapeutic and does something positive,to the way we live. I realized how the joke was on me, for laughing at those girls who couldn't sleep a night without putting things on their pink diaries. They new a secret that took me over 15 years to figure out.

Keeping a journal helps to Organize your thoughts and goals. By writing things down, you get to visualize things, get a different view and perspective, which in the long run keeps you organized and efficient. I had to learn this, the hard way

Now that I have started keeping a journal, I can see how easy it is to release stress through writing things down. As I relieve the daily challenges through writing, it feels like talking it out with someone who only listens,without judgement. This is more effective if you write both in the morning and before going to bed at night...at least it works for me 

They say, any woman who has ever gone through the motherhood phase, loses a bit on her memory range. Forgetting things is one of the side effects of pregnancy and it is real. But like any other muscle, the brain can be trained to regain its status, and journaling is a great way to boost and sharpen your memory. 

Last but definitely not least, journaling is a great way to self-reflect. Our realities are changing every second, things just pass-by too quickly...One minute you were in your prime 20's at Runways whining your.....and the next you are holding a baby while trying to send a board paper email to your supervisor. exhaustion is all we can relate to...But with keeping a journal, you are able to take a break, block the outside noise and reflect on what is happening in your life. It helps to self-check your mental and emotional status which is key to how you function at work and in your home.

Why a change of heart,you ask? Well, I saw the light...lol On a serious note, I have seen the difference it makes, when I write the true feelings that I go through in a day, rather than imaginative stories or creative content for social media. If you have never tried it, I highly recommend..Start writing a Personal Journal

Missie Popular

For the majority of my blogging career, I have been struggling with finding the best way to push educative content, on a positive way. Consider the fashion and style posts for example, too many people were emotionally hurt by the criticism that,from my end, I thought I was helping. When I sat down and read the old posts again, I understood and felt their pain. This is one of the reasons why I have stopped doing Fashion Police,for good.
So,what is the new positive way of leveraging the popularity of the Missie Popular brand in order to impact people?... The M.P LIVE Forum sessions, now on Instagram and later on Facebook and YouTube. 

Every Wednesday and Sunday 9pm, I have been running a series called M.P LIVE Forum, which has 5 episodes as of today,on Instagram. Together with some of my amazing Instagram Family, we have discussed on Marriage and Relationships, Budgeting, Social Skills, Branding and more. The series gives an open and positive platform for everyone to share their experience and knowledge on a specific topic,without prejudice. Speakers/Guests with specialization on certain industries are welcome to give FREE Masterclasses to all who are interested.

WHY did I decide to re-brand Missie Popular in such light? I believe I have grown to such extent that I see beyond clothes and accessories. I have been able to see my community's need for an environment for such peer-to-peer education that you won't merely get in a classroom, or from such experienced people who practice on a daily. I have been able to see the need for an open environment to showcase local businesses, enterprises and projects that might struggle to advertise on conventional media channels due to budget constrains. 

I have seen the need to be the channel for other people's socio-economic growth.

Welcome to the new phase of the Missie Popular brand.

Missie Popular

It's Mother's Day! As a mother of two, today I celebrate the journey I went through and all the sleepless nights I had to endure. To you all Mothers out there, It does NOT matter HOW you became a mommy, what matters is the LOVE and CARE you give to that little monster that calls you MOMMY... We are SUPERHUMANS, and I celebrate you. Take it easy, breath and continue to SHINE. Happy Mother's Day :)

Here is an Unboxing video for the Mother's Day gift I received from Emirates...
Thank you Emirates! Looking forward to boarding you as soon as COVID 19 is over and we can travel again!

Missie Popular
This post might get a bit emotional,so let this serve as a disclaimer :)
This week, I took time to go back and read my blog posts from 2011 when I started this blog. Oooh dear!

First of all, I sincerely APOLOGIZE to all that I ever offended through my criticism and sometimes misplaced sarcasm. Nothing was meant to hurt or offend you. I created the blog mainly to let everyone learn new things in Fashion and Style,as well as have FUN.

With that said, let me take you back to some of the posts that got me all emotional.
 Who remembers this lady? hahahaha oooh Florah! Her a.k.a is Mbuta Nanga and I took this picture in 2011 when I met her in London. She is among the very first readers of this blog,which then inspired her to start her own blog as well. When I met Florah, she really pushed me to keep writing and most importantly, to do Fashion Police in order to assist the Tanzanian celebrities to learn how to style themselves up. Among the craziest comments I used to receive were from her,such a free spirit :)

After the blog started to gain a bit of a readership, I met Cpwaa. It was the week after he won the Kili Music Awards, so you can imagine my shock when he told me he knew my blog! I was sooo excited!
 He signed and handed me his album and I treasure it until today :)...Forgive me but I am such a fan of crunk music. He is among the music artists that I wish would get back into the studio :(
 Anyhow .....

One of the things I tried to do through this blog was to showcase and celebrate every Tanzanian who does something that introduces the country outside our borders...and the late Steven Kanumba was a regular on this blog. So much that, when he died,I posted every detail about the whole drama, especially on the day of his funeral. You may read the post again Here
 Rest with Angels,Steven.

Then there was Vanessa Mdee,launching her music career after several years of being a TV and Radio presenter. It was fun following her growth,from the Karaoke nights at Runways lounge to performing on an international stage! I remember screaming when I saw her picture with Kelly Rowland!

Oooh my boss Flaviana Matata! For almost 10 years I made sure every month I had a post about her. She was the only Tanzania supermodel representing our country while raising our flag high! Through her,many girls believed they can do more,be more...So,when she started her foundation to support girl students,I started calling her BOSS...and have been doing so,ever since.

On events... :)...do you remember the day Chaka Khan came to Dar? Ooooh I was ecstatic!
 I was tuned to 102.5 Choice FM listening to Thandi as she gave the details about the show,playing her music and ...then came the interview! There was no way I was going to miss that show!
 With my Blackberry at hand,I was at the front row singing so loud,they might have thought I was a paid backup singer! Ubungo Plaza was packed! Chaka Khan showed us why she is a power house :) Here is a clip on her performance Chaka Khan

Then came the Vuvuzela Entertainment,giving our ribs some laughing exercises! I remember attending the second edition at the now Oysterbay Shopping Center...I never laughed so hard before that day! The show stopper for me was Dogo Pepe, a kid from Mbagala who showed what Bongo street smart really means.
 The Comedy Club was founded by Evans Bukuku,who also made some crazy jokes that night. Check this video Here
Oooops, my blackberry was also busy capturing some interesting things,like these Hasheem Thabit ankles...I remember I had to use the story of his ankles in order to avoid talking about his then date...Ms Jokate.

Fashion-wise,I can't forget my first interview with the then youngest fashion designer,Mtani Nyamakababi. It was 2011,August I think,when I came across pictures of his designs. At that time, he was doing African print designs,but the quality of his work got my attention. I did several other posts about his work, but the very first interview is here

And then there was the birth of Tanzania's Stylist extraordinaire, Rio Paul...When I first came across his work,styling Jokate Mwegelo and Nuru the Light... I knew this kid will be a frequent topic on the blog.  It wasn't long before he went on to style the hosts of Kili Music Awards 2013! Take a look here

Now,as I was going through this emotional phase, an old friend Honest Aroyal, who used to work for the Swahili Fashion Week, asked if I could do #TBT posts on my socials, showing the different stages we have gone through as the Tanzanian fashion industry...I thought,what a coincidence! And on top of that,what a great idea!

So,starting Thursday of this week,I will be sharing various posts on people and events that I was able to capture over the years. I think this will be so much fun,don't you? Follow me on Instagram and Facebook as @MissiePopular

By now,I am sure you can tell how much I miss those blogging days :) Many have asked me to bring back the same content...I am afraid that will not be possible. I believe it is not the type of content that is relevant anymore...unless its a #TBT like this one, for reference and learning purposes only. Otherwise,everything can be covered over one Instagram post and not a full Blog post

So,what's next? Well,I will continue to post on LIFESTYLE and SELF GROWTH,using fashion and style as key examples. That means, you should expect my posts to be on Fashion and Style discovery, Food, Travel and other lifestyle topics. Just not fashion police :)

I love you for being my reader, for supporting this blog since 2011 to-date. Let's continue to grow together and discover more ๐Ÿ’œ

Missie Popular
 Let me tell you a story; One day I was passing the mabatini road in Dar es Salaam, and from a glass window I saw a beautiful black and white checkered suite. The name on the front door read Hellen Touches. Now, I know of many designer shops and the new unknown ones always intrigue me. That day, I passed the shop and went home. A week passed and I had to use the same road again. This time, there was a white two piece trouser that was on display. Mind you,it was a week toward Valentines Day and I had plans of doing an "All White" Valentines photoshoot. So,I stopped and went to check it out

I was met by a rather charming lady who introduced herself as Hellen,the owner of the shop. Her face was not new to me,I recognized her from somewhere...so I asked her.
"Yes,I once showcased at the Swahili Fashion Week", she said. In my mind,i rearranged the files and remembered the day I saw her designs on the runway,no wonder she looks familiar. I liked her collection.
 As I inspected the two piece that was on display, I realized it was two sizes bigger. Hellen was quick to reassure me that it can be fixed to my size and delivered to me in two days. I was skeptical...see,I am one of those people who buy something straight from the hanger and I hate alterations. So,I moved to the next lineup of clothes,just checking what else she has. And this Kitenge maxi kimono got my attention.

Mind you I had no plans of buying anything except an All White attire for the photoshoot...but this piece was just ogling me with sexy eyes that asked me to take it home :) I am not a mean person, so I obeyed and bought it. In my financial part of the brain, I told myself it was a Valentines present to myself..."you should do this once in a while,Mariam"...I told myself.
Looking at it here,I am proud of that financial part of my brain! It is magnificent! I rocked it with a yellow wide-legged pleated jumpsuit, platinum pumps and green head scarf. Accessories were burgundy threaded earrings and colorless rimmed specs.

You may get the same design of this kimono at Hellen Touches

Missie Popular
This year I was able to attend two different Women's Day events #IWD2020. Here is a video of what happened at the 100 Tanzanian Sheroes event by the Launch Pad, and Her Legacy event by Neema and Vanessa


How was your International Women's Day celebrations?

Missie Popular
These two ladies right here! What can I say jamani...Neema (Penuel Investment) and Vanessa (Flawsome Events),your #IWD2020 event was worth every second we spent at Elan Tanzania Cafe. The event was themed #HerLegacy and it aimed at equipping ladies with tips on how to live,achieve and leave a Legacy
 Hosted by the young and talented Ms Najma,the event was educative,fun and quite a great place for meaningful conversations. Speakers were all ladies,covering topics like Life Planning,Branding,Entrepreneurship and Financial Budgeting

 On top of it all,Ms Maza Sinare of Maznat Beauty House,took us through an affirmation session. This was one of the most emotional yet fulfilling exercise that brought most of us back to our positive zone.
 We networked,Learnt new things and had amazing food by Elan Tanzania Cafe...ooh that cupcake was yummy!!... Plus our goody bag contained sweets and biscuits from a Tanzanian brand,Mummy's...and a surprise from Atsoko...

Since it was a Stylish event,below are some of the beauties who graced the event...

 Did I mentione that we took notes! Yaaas,it was that impactful!

I will share the video with various tips that was shared by the Speakers...Get on YouTube and SUBSCRIBE to the channel for continues positive videos.

Kudos to all ladies who pulled off events on the International Women's Day this year. Thank you all for the celebrations and let's continue to support each other

All pictures by @VisualGig

Missie Popular
 The International Women's Day is upon us, and this year the theme is "I am Generation Equality". It is all about Equality and what it means to you. Let me start by stating my understanding of Equality. To me, Equality is the FREEDOM to choose;It is the presence of EQUAL opportunities, seats and voices for both boys and girls.  

This week I was privileged to attend the first #IWD2020  event in Dar es Salaam, which was initiated by The Launch Pad and supported by the Swedish Embassy in Tanzania. The event brought together the #100TanzanianSheroes and female students from Kisarawe Secondary school and some from various Universities. I was glad to see the representation of women with disabilities as well. 

 "The event aimed at providing a platform for us to meet,network and share the various leadership journeys, including the challenges we face everyday', said Ms Carol Ndosi of The Launch Pad
 It also involved an official launch of the #100TanzanianSheroes book,the 2019 Edition.
 This book highlights profiles of 100 phenomenal Tanzanian women who are breaking the glass ceiling in all sectors. The representation includes women from the private sector, CSO, Academia and the government institutions.
 We kicked off the event with an amazing session on "what is your PURPOSE"...thereafter a panel discussion on leadership, digital media and reproductive health.
 The first hand experiences were also shared,the most memorable and the highlight of the event being the comments by Ms Sabra Machano, the very first female to lead a financial institution in Zanzibar. She serves as the Director General for the Zanzibar Social Security Fund (ZSSF)
 Our networking moment involved book a signing process,whereby all the 100Tanzanian Sheroes got a chance to mingle with the students, discuss their profiles and sign the books. I am humbled to be among the sheroes and you can read my profile at page no. 49
  Here are some of the amazing Sheroes that are now available for mentoring and coaching of the Tanzanian girl who needs a role model to look up to. We represent women from all parts of the country, different educational backgrounds,and a variety of age ranges. See more Sheroes below

Kudos to Ms Carol Ndosi and the Launch Pad team for this initiative. It is my hope that this is just the beginning...that more events,programs and projects are in the pipeline this year. The Tanzanian girl of 2020 should get ready to be impacted,positively

Pictures by Baraka;  IG @Bless_dollar

Missie Popular